8 to do’s: Happiness is in your own hands!
That may sound too good to be true. But by paying attention to a number of concrete things, you do have your happiness under control.
1. Don’t focus on what’s missing
For example, look at children. Of course, they have their moods too, but in general, children seem much happier and happier than many adults. Is that because they impose fewer conditions on happiness? Because they need less to be happy?
Give a child a sheet of paper and some markers, and they are happy. Ask adults what they need to be happy and most come up with a whole laundry list of wishes: a higher salary, more time for themselves, less stress, more vacation, and so on. Children’s ability to be happy with whatever is available at the time makes them less demanding on happiness. And because of that, they are more often happy. If you focus on what’s missing, it’s hard to feel happy. After all, you’re dealing with what you don’t have.
Being grateful for everything you do have is a big step towards happiness. And if you think about it, there are a lot of things in your life that you can be thankful for. Do you have a roof over your head and money to live on? Do you have food every day? That’s more than many other people have.
2. Be active and enterprising
Happy people get more out of life because they put more into it. Don’t sit still, but set yourself goals, go out, do something new, have fun!
Happy people go for it. They don’t stand by the sidelines but try everything. Exciting activities contribute more to your happiness than boring routine activities. Make the most of life, start a new hobby, make new friends, do something fun.
To start, make a fun list of at least 20 activities that make you feel good. Be specific, realistic, and creative.
Also, Read 5 ways to set successful goals and stick to them!
3. Focus on your cute friends
Real friends meet. Cool social contacts make you happier and happier. Don’t decline invitations, organize regular outings or fun activities yourself, or do something in a group.
You can also meet new people by volunteering, taking a course, or joining a club. The more time you spend with others, the happier you become.
Happy people are usually very sociable, easy to make contacts, and easy to get along with others. Social contacts are an important source of happiness. Making extra friends will also make you feel better about yourself. You can then do something every weekend, if one friend can’t, you can go out with another. It’s about offline friends though, 50 extra Facebook friends won’t really make you happier.
4. Try to achieve goals
Happy people don’t just have fun, they work hard on things that are important to them. In addition, they are productive and work with purpose. What is important to you? Which goals are meaningful to you? If you have no idea yet, then you should think deeply about it.
Make a commitment to get one step closer to your goals each week. Getting closer to your goals is important. Because goals you don’t try to achieve aren’t goals, those are dreams. And dreams only make you happy when you dream. Trying to achieve goals step by step makes you happy every day, without having to start fantasizing.
For example, to be happy your career choice is very important. It’s not about status or a high salary, but about work that you find fun and important. If you set a big goal, chop it up and be grateful every time you get one step closer. Compare with where you were a few months ago, and don’t focus on the ultimate goal that is still (too) distant.
5. Don’t worry
Makes sense, but the worry is the nemesis of happiness. Happy people are not (or less) concerned because they realize:
- Worrying is an unpleasant activity.
- Worrying isn’t worth the hassle.
- You can’t take away most worries anyway (yes, you could get sick tomorrow, but there’s no point in anticipating that).
Not convinced? Then keep a worry diary and see how many worries have come true after a while. Immediately turn negative thoughts into positive ones. Ask yourself: Is this a real problem and can I do something about it? If not, do something positive and forget about your worries.
Sport is very important for people with a desk job. Sport is not only very good for your body, but also for your mind. If you are gloomy, sad, or angry, it is best to exercise. Your muscles are then largely in motion, which causes the brain to secrete certain hormones. These provide a kind of happy feeling, which makes you happier.
In addition, you can vent your frustrations by exercising. For example, go running or boxing. This way you can be healthy, get rid of your frustrations and also leave the sports club cheerfully.
After exercise, you are often relaxed and you can take on life again. You put your thoughts aside for a while and sweated your negative feelings out of your body. How many times have you imagined that you are tired and have to drag yourself to the sports club? But after the sporting efforts, you are as fresh as a daisy again.
7. Do as much as possible what you are good at!
Everyone has at least some things they are very good at. Find ways to do these things more often. The happier you do what you do, the happier you are. Of course, sometimes you have to do things against your will. But you can find ways to do things you’re good at more often. And you automatically prefer to do what you are good at.
Are you a fantastic trainer? Then try to find a way to train more people. Are you a good seller? Then find a method to reduce or outsource your administrative tasks, so that you can spend more time with customers.
8. Live your own life
People on their deathbed often regret: “If only I had had the courage to live my whole life, and not live according to the expectations of others.” It doesn’t matter what other people think. Certainly not people who don’t or barely know you. Your dreams, goals, what you enjoy,… Just go for it. Surround yourself with people who encourage this or are involved in similar matters. Make sure you maintain your relationship with them. Let go of people who want you to become someone you are not.
Happy people say what they think (which is different from being rude), behave the way they want, are spontaneous and authentic. Thus, they attract people who appreciate them for who they are. Be spontaneous and honest. Show who you are. You may not be liked by everyone, but you will definitely attract and meet people that suit you.